Will You Gift Yourself Grace This Holiday Season?

Will You Gift Yourself Grace This Holiday Season?

With the holiday season here, many of us find ourselves juggling an overwhelming number of obligations. From hosting meals to finding the perfect gifts, it’s easy to get caught up in external demands. We often extend our wallets, time, and energy to meet these expectations, but how often do we extend grace to ourselves?

We give so much to others during this time of year. We give gifts, time, care, and attention to ensure everyone else feels loved and supported. But what if we gifted ourselves the same grace we so freely offer others? Granting yourself grace means letting go of perfection, releasing unnecessary pressure, and allowing space to simply be human—especially during a season that sometimes feels more demanding than joyful.

I used to place too many demands on myself and, in turn, on my family, making this time of year not a happy one but one filled with unrealistic expectations. These were tough lessons to learn, but our family celebrations are now far better and more joyful because of them. Here are some of the ways I’ve learned to gift myself grace:

1. Lower the Bar

Perfection is not the goal, and it’s often the imperfections that create the most memorable moments. It’s okay if the turkey is a little dry or the wrapping paper doesn’t match. What matters is the connection and love shared. By gifting yourself grace, you can embrace the laughter, mishaps, and genuine moments that make the holidays truly special.

2. Say No When Needed

You don’t have to say yes to every invitation, request, or tradition. Protect your energy by setting boundaries that feel right for you. Saying no to others can mean saying yes to your own peace. I’ve found this to be one of the hardest lessons to learn—especially when expectations from family, cultural traditions, and even little ones make saying no feel nearly impossible. But gifting myself grace in these moments has allowed me to show up more fully in the places that matter most.

3. Focus on What Matters Most

Take a moment to reflect on what the holidays truly mean to you. Is it spending time with family? Practicing gratitude? Passing on traditions? Prioritize what brings you joy and let go of the rest. For me, decorating for the holidays is a source of happiness. While my family doesn’t share the same enthusiasm, they help me by carrying the totes and boxes, and I take care of the rest. It’s a small compromise that allows us all to enjoy the season in our own way.

4. Take Time for Yourself

Carve out moments to breathe and recharge. Whether it’s a quiet walk, a favorite hobby, or simply sitting with a cup of tea, make time to nurture your well-being. For me, Saturday and Sunday mornings are sacred. I love waking up early, working on something with my sourdough, and sipping coffee by the fire. Gifting myself this grace helps me feel grounded and ready to take on the week ahead.

5. Practice Gratitude

When stress starts to take over, grounding yourself in gratitude can shift your perspective. Acknowledge the small joys: a kind word from a loved one, a warm home, or even the beauty of a snowy day. I started practicing gratitude intentionally about seven years ago, and it transformed my outlook. Now, instead of writing things down, I say them out loud, and I frequently tell my friends and family how grateful I am for them and why. It’s one of the simplest yet most impactful gifts I’ve given myself.

The holiday season doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. By gifting yourself grace, you create space for authentic moments of joy, connection, and reflection. This year, let’s embrace the imperfections and give ourselves the same kindness and understanding we so freely offer to others.

Wishing you a season filled with warmth, love, and grace.